The process of devotional life, as delineated in the four Vaishnava paths, is so systematic and detailed that almost one billion people in the world are considered followers of the Vaishnava tradition.

For nearly 50 years, I have generally thought sravanam kirtanam or hearing and chanting (the first two from the list of the nine primary processes of devotional service found in the Nectar of Devotion) applied almost primarily to hearing and chanting during japa meditation. However, recently rereading the purport to Srimad Bhagavatam, I found that Srila Prabhupada sees it much broader to include listening and speaking on ALL transcendental topics. Referring to Kali-yuga, he writes, “…the recommended process of self-realization is that of hearing and chanting of the holy name, fame, and pastimes of the Lord.”

Interestingly, the importance of this essential principle weaves its way through all aspects of our lives, especially in terms of personal growth and mastering anything in this world, spiritual AND material.

Important to note is that hearing comes before chanting or speaking. Here are some well-known quotes on the importance of listening over speaking in any sort of conversation:

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” – Ernest Hemingway

“Listen more than you talk. Nobody learned anything by hearing themselves speak.” – Richard Branson

“People don’t listen to understand. They listen to reply.” Stephen Covey

“Listening is about being present, not just about being quiet.” Krista Tippett

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” Bryant McGill

“Instead of talking in the hope that people will listen, try listening in the hope that people will talk.” Mardy Grothe

FINAL WORDS

One can conclude that asking is better than sharing because sometimes sharing is NOT necessarily caring. It is better to be interested than to try to be interesting. Everyone wants to be listened to, but relationships where that desire can be fulfilled come from listening first.

Some say that listening is one of the loudest forms of kindness. Think about the people who are most appreciated. Chances are they are good listeners. Think about people who are known as humble. Chances are they are good listeners. A good rule of thumb? Ask questions to get another’s perspective, knowing that this is one of the keys to personal and spiritual growth. Thanks to God’s divine wisdom, we were created with two ears and one mouth.