It happens and will continue to happen - someone says something to us, or about us, and we feel the emotions rise. We get ‘bent out of shape’, can’t stop the replay in our mind, and practice all kinds of imaginary ways to respond to it.
The notion of having power over others may provide a temporary gratification, but it starts to unravel pretty soon.
Too much obsession with oneself and with the material world makes people mad. It is not an allegorical statement but it’s a hard core fact. People actually become mad.
The Mahabharata says that, while ordinary arrows cut us once, the arrow of our words ‘burn the heart day and night.’ This is poignantly true when the heated exchange is between near and dear ones, as is so often the case.
Tom Hanks' famous line in Forrest Gump is quite accurate. “Life is like a box of chocolates” he said, “you never know what you’re gonna get!”