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‘It’s Not Your Fault’: Jesus, Forgiveness and the Life of Robin Williams
By Rev. Dr. Susan Brooks Thistlethwaite   |  Aug 15, 2014

One of the hardest things for people to do is forgive themselves, especially when they have been hurt and harmed by others. Harm done to you wounds you deeply, and can convince you that you deserved whatever harm was done to you.

Yet, healing from self-blame for wrong done to you is possible, especially through a compassionate connection. I have hardly ever seen this demonstrated as well as in the film Good Will Hunting, starring Robin Williams and Matt Damon.

Williams, the comic genius and actor of great insight who just died, was able to show that deep, deep capacity for connection that can heal, one person to another. This can be a way people can touch the pain of wrongs done to them, begin to believe it really was not their fault, and begin to let go of self-blame.

Williams played a grieving therapist in that film, and in this scene he tells Will Hunting, the gifted young man whom he is counseling who has been so grievously abused, “It’s not your fault.”

Watch Robin Williams’ eyes in this clip:

There is a ring of truth to this portrayal, perhaps from the depths of what Williams himself struggled with in his own life. Williams apparently committed suicide after struggling over many years with addiction and depression.

Forgiveness is an incredibly difficult and painful subject, as I have learned over and over from teaching and writing on forgiveness, and counseling people in ministry. People can feel they must “forgive and forget” when they have been wronged.

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The author is a Professor of Theology at the Chicago Theological Seminary.

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